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Put a plug in itI had read about this in parenting magazines, but last night, for the first time, I experienced unwanted parenting advice from a complete stranger.

Maxwell was practicing for being a terrible two and started a whining --then crying-- temper tantrum while we were in the bookstore.  Naturally, I wheeled the stroller outside and we waited for Jen to finish shopping. After about 15 minutes of sitting calmly, reading the paper, waiting for Max to regain his composure, a group walks by and one of them asks "is that your baby?" I answered "yes" and she asks why he's crying.  I explained "he's having a temper tantrum.  Babies do that."  The nice, but stupid person tells me "you should try holding him."  It took a lot of restraint (and reminding myself that she probably thought she was being helpful) to keep from delivering a snide retort like "Wow... What an original, brilliant idea!  Thanks Dr. Spock!" or "Oh, does that work with your (imaginary) two-year old?"

Parenting is annoying enough now and then without armchair quarterbacks implying you don't know anything about parenting.

posted on Sunday, October 01, 2006 9:17 PM
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  • # re: Everyone's a Critic
    Trish Kautman
    Posted @ 10/16/2006 2:46 PM
    HA!
    I have a 2.5 year old boy who has similar outbursts... I am afraid that if I held him while he was having a 'moment' that I might loose an eye or something!
    People amaze me. Maybe we should invent a t-shirt for outings that say "If I want your parenting advice I'll ask for it"
    Love the chimp-o-meter by the way!
  • # re: Everyone's a Critic
    Goneapplepicking
    Posted @ 10/19/2006 3:49 PM
    I assume you didn't smack her across her fucking mouth.

    Testosterone is God-given. Don't try to fight it.

    It's all that liberalism. Pussified you up.
  • # re: Everyone's a Critic
    Ryan [admin]
    Posted @ 10/24/2006 12:54 AM
    Jordan... I never know whether to be amused or horrified. That's what makes you such an interesting guy --and a Republican.

    Don't worry folks, he's harmless --mostly.

  • # re: Everyone's a Critic
    Tommy
    Posted @ 11/14/2006 7:35 AM
    I do and recommend the same thing. When my kids were young, I would walk them out of any establishment until they calmed down, I too wouldn't hold them. Why reinforce they behavior. When I tell others about this course of action, they are aghast. However, I now have kids that are well behaved and complimented on their behavior while out. And the foul-mouthed apple-picker is, unfortunately, correct; boys are discouraged from exploring their testerone driven urges to compete, excel and win. Let's just play for fun and we are all winners. But at least gangs are still around for aggressive young men to use as role models. ramble over, for now
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